It's a movement created by Carly Marie, who lives in Australia and does a lot of work to help baby loss families and honor their babies. On the website (here), she says that it is a temporary movement, in hopes that people might start to recognize bereaved mothers on Mother's Day. Instead of recognizing any mothers on Mother's Day it's really just become about buying stuff. But I guess every holiday has these days, even Thanksgiving since Black Friday has taken over.
Anyway, it is International Bereaved Mother's Day, and I believe this is the second year this day has been recognized as that, it is the Sunday before Mother's Day each year. And while I'm not really celebrating it, I felt like writing about it a little.
I am really scared of Mother's Day. It is awful to think that no one will recognize that John and I still have a daughter. Yes Mother's Day and Father's Day are days that for us are not for being with her and being happy, but days of missing her, just like every other day. But all mothers and fathers should be recognized on those days, all of them. So I see the beauty of declaring an International Bereaved Mother's Day and Father's Day, so that people can see that even if a child is missing they still have moms and dads. I still have a daughter and she still has a mother.
I have become even more grateful the past few days that I carried her as long as I did. I got to feel her move, watch her grow, learn about her. I got to birth her, hold her, have pictures of her. Thank God I did. What if I hadn't, what if I wasn't her mother? I have been through a lot of pain because of her death, but that pain comes from love and I would NEVER wish to take away that love, or that she is a part of my life now. Thank God I had her for as long as I did, I am so grateful for the time I was given. I am so thankful for her, for having my beautiful Daughter, for getting the honor of being her Mother.
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